Cunt

Didn't see that coming, did you?

This is considered by most women as the ultimately vile word.

How to defuse this verbal bomb?

Simple: do what the Brits do, remove the gender aspect from it. In merry England cunt just means ass-hole, male or female, as in: "He's nothing but a bloody, fucking cunt." This could refer to a plumber.

As Lenny Bruce said, there are no dirty words, just dirty minds.

Anyone who disagrees with me is obviously a bloody, fucking cunt.

And you know who you are...